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Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 5:11:11
In reply to Re: And... » 10derHeart, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 0:33:52
> WOW! I CAN'T BELIEVE I MISSED THAT!!!
Big huh> Really.
Would we kid about a thing like that?> I missed the whole thread.
You had more importnt things to worry about> Thanks for the link :-)
> Gosh peoples, thats a long time...
> Wow.
> I really long time.
OH YEAH!!!!!!> Yup. I don't know that I could wait that long. Really.
I really hope you don't have too.
> Hmm. I'm not sure. I think there are two aspects (1) recreation (2) love. I would probably prefer the latter - but most of my issues are around that. I guess I'm more thinking of the first one at the mo...My difficulties with myself never allowed me to be in a place were it could be 'just for fun'. Even where I thought there was love it was like diving into a frozen lake and holding my breath and the panic and trying not to loose consciousness before I found a way back through the surface of the ice.
> Mmm. Can be fun though :-)
There's anice thought :-)
> Mmm. I imagine there is something to be said for that too... I don't know. I don't believe anyone would ever really love me. (Oh, I do) I don't believe I am capable of really loving another. (This is a fear we have in common then) Especially the latter. I really don't think that I am. That saddens me. But there it is. (Not only saddens me, but scares me, all I can tell you alex is that I believe I am more able to love someone now than I have ever been in my life, at least you've got a 14 year head start)
>
> XXXX(((((10derHeart)))))XXXX
> XXXX(((((Alex)))))XXXX
Hope things work out for you too.
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:35:14
In reply to Re: BUT I DON'T WANNA BE ALONE (Long) » Susan47, posted by alexandra_k on April 23, 2005, at 21:43:42
This is funny and also really sad and I wish it had never happened the way it did. But you have to hear it because it's a dating story I need to tell, 'cause I never have.
When I was in my early twenties, oh 21 or 22, I was going out dancing a lot, and a guy took my number but I don't recall whether he ever called me. In any case one day I get a phone call from this man, and he tells me he got my number from his SON'S little black book ... and he wondered whether I would be interested in seeing a movie with him. He sounded really nice, and interesting. So I agreed, and at the appointed hour he picked me up in his black Cadillac, and he had wineglasses in there and he poured me a glass of Rose and (I'm not kidding) I drank it while we drove to the theatre, saw the movie, afterwards he took me to his place, an apartment in a converted mansion in a nice area of town, and as we listened to music, he asked if he could suck on (I'll babblemail you what term he actually used, it's pretty funny) and I said, "WHAT??? No you certainly may not and I'm insulted at the way you've treated me, take me home immediately please." And he CRIED, he broke down and cried. And told me his was just divorced, lalalalla. He apologized profusely and took me home and that was that.
Years later, after I'd gotten over my feelings of rage with him AND myself for ever accepting a date like that, I felt sorry for him.
So no, you know Alexandra, I think meeting someone in a group of friends is really ideal.
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:36:04
In reply to ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 23, 2005, at 22:41:40
Oh man, Damos, I'm all hot now. And no drugs today either. Whew-hew.
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:36:38
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))), posted by anastasia56 on April 23, 2005, at 23:30:59
I know. We should really get to know Damos better. We could start a group of friends :-)
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:39:58
In reply to Re: And... » alexandra_k, posted by 10derHeart on April 24, 2005, at 0:05:24
I'm currently at 1.5 years. I've gone longer before. But it isn't easy. It isn't easy when I'm feeling sexually expressive.
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 18:51:17
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » anastasia56, posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:36:38
> I know. We should really get to know Damos better. We could start a group of friends :-)
Gosh, I really don't know what to say.
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 18:53:26
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » Damos, posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 14:36:04
Holy guacomole! I might just nip up to the supermarket and stand in their cool room for a bit, 48 hours ought to do it ;-)
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:07:34
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 18:53:26
I'm sure me and Susan can bring you out of your shell ;-)
Posted by anastasia56 on April 24, 2005, at 19:08:31
In reply to Re: ((((((Alex)))))) ((((((Susan)))))) » Susan47, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 18:53:26
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:19:44
In reply to hmmmm...what to do what to do... (nm) » Damos, posted by anastasia56 on April 24, 2005, at 19:08:31
You
RUN LIKE HELL!!!
Mwah ha ha!
Posted by anastasia56 on April 24, 2005, at 19:35:04
In reply to Re: May I suggest » anastasia56, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:19:44
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 20:06:31
In reply to Re: Te he he » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:07:34
I don't doubt that for a second.
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 20:11:59
In reply to Re: May I suggest » anastasia56, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 19:19:44
Puppy jumped I laughed so loud. It's so nice to have the house all to myself for a change and have a work laptop that actually works so I can talk to you guys.
There's only one major problem with the cool room - shrinkge. Mind you, I could probably register the little guy as long term unemployed and get some sort of benefit!
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:11:11
In reply to Re: Te he he » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 20:06:31
Well you'll have to come out of the fridge then ;-)
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:13:32
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 20:11:59
> Puppy jumped I laughed so loud.
Yay! Puppy. Give Sarah a big hug from me, ok? Do you have any pictures of her? I'd love it if you could email me one.
>It's so nice to have the house all to myself for a change and have a work laptop that actually works so I can talk to you guys.
:-)
Yay. Its a holiday!
(I don't know if we are supposed to feel happy about that on ANZAC day)
But...
Yay. Its a holiday!
(Not that I have done anything for weeks now...)
> Mind you, I could probably register the little guy as long term unemployed and get some sort of benefit!HA! Oh Damos that made me laugh!
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:17:38
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:13:32
Posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 21:27:14
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:13:32
She's here, seconding Alexandra's Mwah-ha-ha!
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 21:29:21
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:13:32
> > Puppy jumped I laughed so loud.
>
> Yay! Puppy. Give Sarah a big hug from me, ok? Do you have any pictures of her? I'd love it if you could email me one.I absolutely will. Don't tell but I put a blanket up on the lounge last night so she could sit up there with me and watch telly. I'm sure I've got a bunch, just drop me a note to my address (I think I babblemailed it to you) and I'll send some over.
> >It's so nice to have the house all to myself for a change and have a work laptop that actually works so I can talk to you guys.
>
> :-)
> Yay. Its a holiday!
You have no idea.
> (I don't know if we are supposed to feel happy about that on ANZAC day)
> But...
> Yay. Its a holiday!
> (Not that I have done anything for weeks now...)
>
> > Mind you, I could probably register the little guy as long term unemployed and get some sort of benefit!
>
> HA! Oh Damos that made me laugh!
Yay!!!! that's more like it.
>
>
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:32:35
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha, posted by Susan47 on April 24, 2005, at 21:27:14
Posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:34:14
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 21:29:21
> I absolutely will. Don't tell but I put a blanket up on the lounge last night so she could sit up there with me and watch telly.
:-)
Aw, you are so sweet.>I'm sure I've got a bunch, just drop me a note to my address (I think I babblemailed it to you) and I'll send some over.
Ok. I'll try. Otherwise I'll babblemail you my address.
> > HA! Oh Damos that made me laugh!
> Yay!!!! that's more like it.:-)
You are a riot!
Posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 22:17:35
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » Damos, posted by alexandra_k on April 24, 2005, at 21:34:14
> Aw, you are so sweet.
Shhhh, I can't have you spreading unfounded rumours like that, they'll ruin my self image :-)> You are a riot!
No, no you must have me confused with another Damos. I'm Damos the human sedative, guaranteed to put anyone to sleep with 5 minutes of contact =0)
Posted by sunny10 on April 25, 2005, at 8:56:03
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 22:17:35
might I presume to suggest that it is not actually the sex or sex chemical reaction that you people are "missing with regret", but the chemical that is released by close INTIMACY?
I tried to do what Alex has (and is thinking about maybe doing again). Doing that accomplished one of two terrible things for ME (maybe she is just much more mature than I....almost everyone seems to be...)
1) I felt like I was not worth a relationship (and this type of non-relationship simply bolstered my low opinion of myself. OR
2) I fell in love with the closeness that only ever existed in my mind... we'd start out as "friends with benefits", progress to affection and "sexually intimacy", and then with the affection chemicals being released, I would fall in love with them even though "I Knew" they were unavailable to me in one way or another and we'd never wind up together and my heart would be broken again, and my fear of abandonment would be realized as being abandoned again...Fill one hand with wishes and the other with sh*t and see which one fills up first, right?!? We'll just have to rely on our friendships here on Babble until we find that in our own hometowns... I feel so lucky to have "met" you guys; it feels almost selfish to hope for more!!
XOXOXOXOX,
sunny10
Posted by damos on April 25, 2005, at 21:17:40
In reply to Re: For the sexually inactive..., posted by sunny10 on April 25, 2005, at 8:56:03
You feel free to presume away.
There is a lot of truth and honesty in what you said. That hard afterwards realisation stuff that you've just gotta try to remember till next time you see yourself going there all over again.
... I feel so lucky to have "met" you guys; it feels almost selfish to hope for more!!
Ditto that.
>
> XOXOXOXOX,
> sunny10Big hugs and kisses right back atya sunny.
Posted by 10derHeart on April 26, 2005, at 0:13:14
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » alexandra_k, posted by Damos on April 24, 2005, at 22:17:35
>> I'm Damos the human sedative, guaranteed to put anyone to sleep with 5 minutes of contact =0)
I highly doubt that. I'm quite, VERY wide awake.
I like this thread. Maybe too much.
Oh dear. (yikes!)
Posted by alexandra_k on April 26, 2005, at 0:28:30
In reply to Re: May I suggest -Mwah ha ha » Damos, posted by 10derHeart on April 26, 2005, at 0:13:14
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