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Posted by tampagirl70 on November 2, 2004, at 16:49:05
I have OCD and the thing I obsess about most is my husband and our relationship. I see other couples and people and think that because I don't feel they way they do or act the way they do that I don't really love my husband. I don't have a tremendous sex drive and never really have, but taking antidepressants doesn't help matters any. I know love is different for everone, but how did you determine that you either did or didn't love someone?
Posted by 64bowtie on November 3, 2004, at 0:43:06
In reply to Questions about Love, posted by tampagirl70 on November 2, 2004, at 16:49:05
> I know love is different for everone, but how did you determine that you either did or didn't love someone?
<<< Thank you for trusting us here with your delicate information... A lot of what you discussed takes courage to tell strangers...
Let me ask, what do you see is important about a pairing relationship? Why relationship?
Once you have an answer, what are you willing to do to make it work?
Background question: Can you write about the difference you see and/or feel between approval found in childhood, and love found in adulthood? By the way, both are feelings and are so close that most folks don't see a difference.
If you don't care to report what your answers might be, we won't abandon you. You are here for you, and we are here for you. I'm more interested in you finding answers for yourself that work for you. I only hope we can help some.
Rod
Posted by tampagirl70 on November 3, 2004, at 9:07:31
In reply to Troubling questions about Love » tampagirl70, posted by 64bowtie on November 3, 2004, at 0:43:06
I'm at work so my response won't be as detailed as I'd like.
I'll start thinking about our relationship (we've been together for almost 12 years, married for almost 9)and start to think about the other people and couples I see and analyze how they act compared to us. The problems start when I begin obsessing and then the thoughts spiral out of control. I read a post above about how "alexandra"'s partner gave her a house, car, pets, money, etc. and then I looked at my life. My spouse makes much more money than I do, he pays the mortgage and all the household bills. At times I've felt like he's a parent since I went from living with my parents to living with him. All of these thoughts spiraling out of control make me depressed and the thoughts continue coming fast and furious. My search for answers about love usually only comes up when I'm obsessing and depressed.
Any response or input would be greatly appreciated.
Posted by sunny10 on November 3, 2004, at 9:42:09
In reply to Questions about Love, posted by tampagirl70 on November 2, 2004, at 16:49:05
My experience can be found on
Re: Is it really important to be in love? » tampagirl70 ...-sunny10
Hope it helps,
-sunny10
Posted by tampagirl70 on November 3, 2004, at 10:12:29
In reply to Re: Questions about Love, posted by sunny10 on November 3, 2004, at 9:42:09
I saw that; that's what kind of prompted me to ask this.
Posted by Susan47 on November 5, 2004, at 22:31:40
In reply to Re: Questions about Love, posted by tampagirl70 on November 3, 2004, at 10:12:29
I just now read your thread and from your posts it sounds, to me (I'm a forty-seven and a half year-old white woman) :] it sounds like you're a bit p.o'd about not having your own life and this man who's kind of stopping you a bit but you've been together for SO LONG and what would your life be like if you were really YOU?
Just my own interpretation :) I can hear myself so much in your post, and I know that doesn't mean you feel this way but the depression sure feels the same.
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