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Posted by saw on November 9, 2004, at 0:04:24
In reply to I reccommend silk » saw, posted by AuntieMel on November 8, 2004, at 16:31:34
Hmmm, might do this. I have a lot of satin / silky things from *thin" days and miss them. I might just buy a few cheapy but nice looking ones for the *fat* days.
S
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 0:09:06
In reply to Re: I reccommend silk » AuntieMel, posted by saw on November 9, 2004, at 0:04:24
Buy a new merry widow in a bigger size! Do whatever it takes to feel sexy, and quit looking in the mirror unless you have candles lit, make up on, stockings, you name it hon whatever it takes you do it, don't even allow your mind to go anywhere other than the root of your sexuality.
Hmm, it's not stress that's doing this to you, is it? I mean, look at all the overweight people doing porn videos. It hasn't really got that much to do with fat, does it? Fat can be so sexy. Geez Louise, listen to me. :( You're all gonna think I'm weird, now.
Posted by saw on November 9, 2004, at 0:27:46
In reply to Re: I reccommend silk » saw, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 0:09:06
I need to adopt your positivity, or positive sexuality. That is not meant to sound weird. You are up early? Or late?
Sabrina
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 0:35:56
In reply to I'm physically shutting out my husband, posted by saw on November 5, 2004, at 0:38:18
I'm going to say this no matter what kind of pot gets stirred up. It's time for us to admit that yes, fat is comforting, and yes, fat IS actually attractive, and yes, we're nuts to think otherwise.
If we were living in the wild, not this what *we* call civilization ... which babe would be more attractive? The (a) weak, malnourished, unable to feed her young, elbow-you-in-the-ribs, always cold-and-shivering-all-night-long bone-rack, or (b) the nourishing, voluptuous, supple, creamy-skinned (think, layer of fat glowing under the skin, think, "lit from within") soft, keep-you-warm-at-night maiden ...? Historically speaking I do believe (b) wins out every time. But I'm not slamming us thin people, either. We do have our good qualities, too. I just have to really think about what they are ... we mostly look all right in clothes, but no matter what we're wearing our feet always look too big.
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 0:37:37
In reply to Susan, posted by saw on November 9, 2004, at 0:27:46
I'm up late, Sabrina. I live in Canada, you know, the land of the frozen north or whatever? We're not frozen today though we're just a touch of ol' England ... foggy outside, and in.
Posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 4:59:17
In reply to Fat is Womanly, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 0:35:56
I finally found the ideal way to embrace my um, womanly curves - ok, bulges, when I started to learn to belly dance. The dance begs you to appreciate each and every part of our bodies as the beautiful things they are. I'm going to be giving my unsuspecting book club members some lessons when they meet at my home this week.
Everybody looks gorgeous twirling a veil around their heads.
pc
Posted by saw on November 9, 2004, at 5:15:05
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly, posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 4:59:17
I couldn't (shouldn't) belly dance. I would knock anyone out who are in the near vicinity. With my tummy.
This is a side to you that I didn't expect. Good to know!!
S
Posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 5:43:05
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly » partlycloudy, posted by saw on November 9, 2004, at 5:15:05
> I couldn't (shouldn't) belly dance. I would knock anyone out who are in the near vicinity. With my tummy.
>
LOL! Having a belly is a prerequisite for belly dancing. I like the dressing up part. Tops, harem pants, belts, veils, I love it all. I have only ever done dance for myself. It's not the kind of activity I "perform" for my husband, that seems to take away from the beauty of it for me.
Posted by saw on November 9, 2004, at 6:52:14
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly, posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 5:43:05
My post disappeared AGAIN!!
Yes, but my size belly? I think not.
I think you will enjoy "Sarah Brightman Harem" CD. It has a very eastern theme and some of her attire throughout is just beautiful. I have watched all the videos and the making of the DVD etc.
You can also see here. http://www.sarah-brightman.com/frame.html
Oh, Dr Bob, in case you are wondering, I am very passionate about Sarah and have a very special *relationship* with all my cd's.
S
PS. I like the way this thread turned. I'm not thinking about shutting poor hubby out at the moment!
Posted by AuntieMel on November 9, 2004, at 12:24:59
In reply to Re: I reccommend silk » AuntieMel, posted by saw on November 9, 2004, at 0:04:24
NOT cheapy things. How can you feel good with cheapy things?
You deserve at least the same quality as you did when you were thin. I would say you deserve more - for fighting the good fight.
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 13:08:28
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly, posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 4:59:17
Your book club sounds like FUN.
Posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 14:10:30
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly, partlycloudy, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 13:08:28
It's a funny group, that's for sure. We have a bossy person who's the unofficial head of the group. She calls any new members and gives them a speech about the responsibility of being in the club; that we actually discuss the book; and the only acceptable reasons for not attending are imminent death or being out of town. I was on hiatus for a year when I worked up the nerve to go back to it.
pc
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 15:35:08
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly, partlycloudy » Susan47, posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 14:10:30
Sounds demanding. What's your most recent read?
Posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 16:44:24
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly, partlycloudy, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 15:35:08
Last month it was "A Room With A View" by Virginia Woolf. I choked on that one. Also have read "The Life of Pi", "Middlesex", "Desert Queen", and "Fast Food Nation". The caveat is that the book be available in paperback to keep costs down.
Posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 17:17:20
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly, partlycloudy » Susan47, posted by partlycloudy on November 9, 2004, at 16:44:24
Fast Food Nation is the only one of those that I've read, last summer, and wow. Now I have trouble even eating popcorn, and every truck I see with ConAgra on it or every product that's theirs I want to jump up and down and make a big scene. Oh well.
Posted by saw on November 10, 2004, at 2:45:26
In reply to Re: Fat is Womanly, partlycloudy, posted by Susan47 on November 9, 2004, at 17:17:20
I really feel a part of the babble family today. I love looking at a thread I started and reading the support, the understanding, seeing that it is ok to change direction and that it makes me smile. And then when I see it is quite long, I feel all chuffed and proud too!
Thanks guys.
Sabrina
Posted by saw on November 10, 2004, at 4:57:05
In reply to Re: there you go again!!! » saw, posted by AuntieMel on November 9, 2004, at 12:24:59
LOL! I must have sounded so ungrateful and whiney.
What I really meanty (that was a typo, but made me smile) cheapy was that I really will lose this extra weight and didn't want to spend too much on my fatty wardrobe because I want to spoil myself when I get my thinny wardrobe back.
But I relent, I am going to buy one, only one, outrageously priced feel good, fighting good fight, I feel sexy item and smile when it starts to hang like a sack.
A bit more positive maybe??
Sabrina
Posted by sunny10 on November 10, 2004, at 8:35:04
In reply to Re: there you go again!!! » AuntieMel, posted by saw on November 10, 2004, at 4:57:05
How 'bout just getting comfortable with you NOW, instead of looking forward to getting "skinny" again??
I think that's what everyone is getting at, here, Sabrina!
You will have your unconditionally wonderful sex life back when YOU accept YOU. You husband already accepts YOU, he's just waiting for you to catch up...
AuntieMel was asking you to validate yourself as you are now by spending a little money on you. You are worth the good stuff as you are.
-sunny10
Posted by Susan47 on November 10, 2004, at 23:53:12
In reply to Re: there you go again!!! » saw, posted by sunny10 on November 10, 2004, at 8:35:04
Yeah, and if you lose too much weight, Sabrina, it might not be just your clothes that hang like sacks, but your boobs!!! Aaaagggghhh!!!
Posted by alexandra_k on November 11, 2004, at 7:34:21
In reply to Re: there you go again!!!, posted by Susan47 on November 10, 2004, at 23:53:12
I am not sure where I heard this (maybe off a movie or something) but: it is funny how what is pleasing to the eye can be different from what is pleasing to the touch.
IMHO slender people wear clothes well etc, but when you need a hug cuddly is good. I cringe when fat rolls are grabbed too, but for some reason he finds this amusing...
Sorry I was so late joining in this thread. (((Sabrina))) I too know how hard it can be to feel like a baby whale (I got very big on Seroquel and Epilim). I felt disgusting: but even though I found it really hard to bring myself to believe it, I was the only one that felt that way.
Women get such mixed messages about needing to look like pre-pubescent kids. But what is pleasing to the touch...
Posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 22:18:33
In reply to Hello., posted by alexandra_k on November 11, 2004, at 7:34:21
Geez Louise alexandra now I feel really bad about being too skinny.
I'm getting a bit of an ass on me though lately so I guess that's good. Or, it could be just the way I'm looking at or seeing myself, as my clothes seem to fit just the same. Wish I truly knew.
Posted by Dr. Bob on November 12, 2004, at 8:31:52
In reply to Re: Hello., posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 22:18:33
> I'm getting a bit of an [*]ss on me though lately
Sorry to be such a prude, but please don't use language that could offend others.
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Thanks,
Bob
Posted by Jai Narayan on November 12, 2004, at 18:41:50
In reply to Re: Hello., posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 22:18:33
I too was called on the carpet for this word.
I was celebrating my @ss. But we really must be prudish.
Let's call it something else...shall we. I wrote a whole poem dedicated to this @ss name problem.
I guess it should be *ss?
Or a**?
Or a*s?
I really don't understand. It's not being cruel or unkind.
Take heart, Susan we are in this together.
Jai
Posted by Jai Narayan on November 12, 2004, at 18:45:19
In reply to Re: Hello., posted by Susan47 on November 11, 2004, at 22:18:33
ode to my Glutinous maximus
I have a handsome derriere
I strut when we go a walkin
some say it looks like two beavers going at it in a sack
my buttocks exploits my black tights
many have marveled about my backside
some have reached out to touch my behind
I say ooh....
My eyes flash a wicked grin
this is my bottom property
I glimpse my cheeks as I stand in reflection
sometimes my fanny seems to be preoccupied
other times the hams are perky
always hiney is in deep thought
why my posterior is positively maneuvering
often I feel a little behind
but the fundament has flexibility
I get on my haunches
thinking about my heinie
which can lead me to the tail end
hey butt why make a rumpusJai, who is really shy about her **s
Posted by Susan47 on November 12, 2004, at 21:34:54
In reply to ode to my Glutinous maximus, posted by Jai Narayan on November 12, 2004, at 18:45:19
That's what they used to say about my derriere, darling. I guess now it's more like ... two pigs in a quilt.
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