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Posted by AdaGrace on December 25, 2004, at 17:12:56
This holiday season. I think I am going to make a decision regarding my outlook on life, love, happyness, and the things that makes me tick. I am not going to be selfish, I am going to live through my kids, and when they are grown and I can proudly say I raised them, then....then I am going to re-evaluate my life.
AdaGrace
Posted by AdaGrace on December 26, 2004, at 8:30:33
In reply to Going to Make a Decision, posted by AdaGrace on December 25, 2004, at 17:12:56
My sensual sexual being will dry up and noone will ever want me again. Might as well go ahead and eat so I don't think for one minute that I am sexy and deserving of someone's love, attention, and devotion.
Posted by eugenia on December 26, 2004, at 8:43:27
In reply to Going to Make a Decision, posted by AdaGrace on December 25, 2004, at 17:12:56
Hi:
I don't know if you were serious when you said you were going to live through your kids, but for their sake please don't do that! My Mom did that and it really screwed with my head. To this day, I don't know if my actions are designed to please my Mom or if they are the result of my true feelings and cognitions. I say, go ahead and indulge your sexual energy, it is the least selfish thing you can do.
Posted by partlycloudy on December 26, 2004, at 12:56:03
In reply to Re: Going to Make a Decision, posted by eugenia on December 26, 2004, at 8:43:27
Hear, hear. Out comes the broken record: taking the best possible care of yourself will benefit everyone, AdaGrace. Living vicariously through someone else (my ex-husband in my case, your kids in yours) is not good for anybody...
How about, "this is the year I take care of myself better"?
Posted by AdaGrace on December 31, 2004, at 15:28:10
In reply to Going to Make a Decision, posted by AdaGrace on December 25, 2004, at 17:12:56
Except my children of course....they need me. But everyone else is off limits. It hurts too much and if I don't stop, I will die.
Posted by borderliner on January 9, 2005, at 0:21:43
In reply to Re: Going to Make a Decision, posted by eugenia on December 26, 2004, at 8:43:27
I think that would be incredibly stupid. My mother did the same. But five kids including one cannabis user, one whos doing the same she did, one who turned out gay and 2 lil brats.... she quite predictably drove herself to a collapse at work, and has been in and out of hospital since. Been on every medication under the planet. She put too much energy into everyone else and forgot about number 1. Which eventually turned her into a mother that every child has left at 16 years old.
Be selfish and enjoy yourself while u can. After many years of pain my mother decided to live for herself but still look after 2 kids. She met a great man on the internet, met him a few times and maintained the relationship over the phone for a bout a year before deciding to move there with the kids(anmerica) and get married. They married and he died 4 weeks later on christmas eve.
Depressing story... look at it however u want.borderliner
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