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Posted by Cherilyn on January 2, 2005, at 21:48:22
Hi... I'm new. I originally began looking at the meds board (because I'm on everything known to man, apparently) but realized that no matter what I'm taking now, I need to deal with what's really going on.
Which is the recent dissolution of my relationship and my complete inability to let it go. I began an intense love affair with who I thought (and sometimes still do) was my soulmate. I had never felt so exactly just myself. You sort of just have to understand how that feels. It's like being perfect.
But I'm bipolar and my boyfriend is depressive and we let each other down. I met somebody else and broke up with my boyfriend and am now miserable. I honestly don't know how I feel about the new man because I'm too incredibly destroyed about the last one. I get hit by insane waves of hysterical crying and panic. I look to him for support and he can't give it. I'm making the breakup much worse on both of us and I can't help it.
I'm terrified and just can't deal. I know we weren't happy and maybe we never would be, but I just want everything back the way it was. How do I move forward? I can't even find the door to the right tunnel, let along see through it to the alleged light.
Anyone know what I'm talking about?
Posted by Toph on January 3, 2005, at 9:25:26
In reply to trouble letting go, posted by Cherilyn on January 2, 2005, at 21:48:22
Welcome Cherilyn,
Your post made me think of synergy (I think that's what it's called) where the sum of the parts is greater than the individual parts. When you guys were together the sense of wholeness you felt was somehow greater than what he was actually giving you. I'm not saying he isn't right for you, he may be. But being in love is a really powerful tonic for our insecurities and flaws. When the relationship really has to be strong is when the fireworks are over. If you and your partner can accept each other, flaws and all, after the euphoria, now that's perfection to me.
-Toph
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