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Posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 9:48:38
I mean really, I'm going to Webster and find out.......
Posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 10:19:21
In reply to What is the Definition of a Whore?, posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 9:48:38
What is the word for the person who is doing the paying for sex???
Posted by Susan47 on January 31, 2005, at 11:02:42
In reply to Re: And, posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 10:19:21
Polite word: client.
Another: John.
What happened lovey?
Posted by sunny10 on January 31, 2005, at 11:42:23
In reply to Re: And, posted by Susan47 on January 31, 2005, at 11:02:42
ah, yes, and the term for acting John-like is "soliciting", which is funny, because a "solicitor" is from Merriam-Webster...
Main Entry: so·lic·i·tor
Pronunciation: s&-'li-s&-t&r, -'lis-t&r
Function: noun
1 : one that solicits; especially : an agent that solicits (as contributions to charity)
2 : a British lawyer who advises clients, represents them in the lower courts, and prepares cases for barristers to try in higher courts
3 : the chief law officer of a municipality, county, or government department
- so·lic·i·tor·ship /-"ship/ noun ....Okay, AdaGrace, maybe my humorous observation is out of line, here.... Like Suze said, what's up?
-Sunny10
Posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 17:48:19
In reply to Re: And, posted by Susan47 on January 31, 2005, at 11:02:42
Posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 17:52:15
In reply to Re: And, posted by sunny10 on January 31, 2005, at 11:42:23
Posted by Susan47 on January 31, 2005, at 18:27:05
In reply to Re: AdaGrace = Whore + John = Whorjohn, Johnwhore (nm), posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 17:52:15
You last posted about half an hour ago, that I've worked out, or maybe it's been more like an hour.
You're being as clear as mud.\
Do you want support?
Or not?
And no, I am not your mommy, but I would like to hear about why you're obviously feeling so desperately bad about yourself.
Because "whores" deserve to feel good, "Whores" are good. The Johns can't help themselves, they're irrelevant.
What are you, a bit of both? That seems to be what you're saying.
ANd no, I am not your mother. I can barely mother myself.
Posted by partlycloudy on February 1, 2005, at 5:03:11
In reply to Re: AdaGrace = Whore + John = Whorjohn, Johnwhore (nm), posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 17:52:15
...changing your name to who you WANT to be, not who you THINK you are?
Does where you are feel like the bottom yet? I have a hand reaching out to you, but you don't seem to see it. This hand won't slap you away or scratch, or shake a finger at you in shame. It's a friendly, healing hand.
I'm over here, AdaGrace.
Posted by saw on February 1, 2005, at 8:39:34
In reply to How about... » AdaGrace, posted by partlycloudy on February 1, 2005, at 5:03:11
I'm holding hands with partlycloudy Ada.
No judgement here. WHATSOEVER!
Posted by sunny10 on February 1, 2005, at 12:18:29
In reply to Re: How about... AdaGrace, posted by saw on February 1, 2005, at 8:39:34
AdaGrace, I read the words over and over,but there are SO many ways that I can see to read them and I'm not sure which way you mean, so I don't know how to help...
None of the meanings I can see are self-promoting, though, so knock it off, would you??
We love you- you are badmouthing a friend of ours, and I take offense to that!
Please be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the love you treat us with when we're hurting. You deserve it, you know.
When you are ready to tell us how we can help, we'll listen. Until then, I'm out there in the chain with partycloudy and Sabrina... we're all here holding out our hands for you.
(((AdaGrace)))
Posted by AdaGrace on February 1, 2005, at 17:28:43
In reply to What is the Definition of a Whore?, posted by AdaGrace on January 31, 2005, at 9:48:38
If someone goes out with someone else, and knows going into the situation that the other person has no money, but agrees to go anyway and foot the bill....that is fine, right?
Okay, but what if the person with the money always gives the money to the other person to pay and the change never comes back? Makes you wonder right?
Okay, now what if I were to say that the person paying for the "date" wants to go back to the non payer person's place for "e'hem" "more entertainment"....and is told that if that person with the dinero would give the other person some money so they could go out later with friends......then they would go and have some fun, but not until.
Now, who is the whore, and who is the John, and can it be the same person??????
And what if the money person has more money missing than what they can calculate even with the money in exchange for sex included in their count of all the beers and food that person bought??? Because that person suspects something missing from their money stash???
Now, the clincher........what does it make that money person if he/she is willing to do this again for attention or entertaiment........???Is there a word for this person? Is this an addiction?
Is an addictive personality broader than addictions to drugs and alcohol? Can it be sex too? Attention? Compulsiveness?
Posted by partlycloudy on February 1, 2005, at 20:08:37
In reply to Re: Okay, So This is What I Think, posted by AdaGrace on February 1, 2005, at 17:28:43
> Is there a word for this person? Is this an addiction?
>
> Is an addictive personality broader than addictions to drugs and alcohol? Can it be sex too? Attention? Compulsiveness?
>Bingo. I think I could transfer my addiction to any number of issues. Thank goodness I only do 2 addictions at a time. Babble and booze.
Posted by just plain jane on February 1, 2005, at 23:34:09
In reply to Re: Okay, So This is What I Think, posted by AdaGrace on February 1, 2005, at 17:28:43
>Is this an addiction?
>
> Is an addictive personality broader than addictions to drugs and alcohol? Can it be sex too? Attention? Compulsiveness?<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
AdaGrace (you've made me come out of my foxhole)
another term for john is trick
the only trick you are turning is with yourself, and it is a very destructive trick
the only person being skrewed is you,
by youif the money being spent, stolen or otherwise gone is/was yours, an attorney and a therapist are better expenses than getting hammered, whether in the sexual or alcoholic context
it's very painful to watch you do yourself this way
because of what I do know of you, of your conscious efforts to wreak havoc in your life, i don't believe you are "an addictive personality"
i believe that in many cases, yours in particular, considering one's self an "addictive personality" is, in actuality, a personality seeking to divest themself of responsibility for their actions, anger, bitter and complex feelings, in order to avoid taking positive action in their life.i believe you are running as hard and fast as you can
from yourself.you can't get away from yourself
in fact, you are the only person you cannot get away from
no matter how fast or how far you goi'd like you to stop running
stop wasting your time
stop wasting your money
STOP WASTING YOURSELFplease?
you can't undo your unpleasant past but,
you can do your future as pleasant as you'd like
if you commit to the goals you'd like to reachjane
Posted by Susan47 on February 2, 2005, at 1:29:32
In reply to Re: Okay, So This is What I Think, posted by AdaGrace on February 1, 2005, at 17:28:43
The whore is the male sociopath who is accepting and stealing money from the poor john. The poor john should be very very careful with the sociopathic whore. And BTW, not all whores are like that.
Posted by Susan47 on February 2, 2005, at 1:31:10
In reply to Re: Okay, So This is What I Think, posted by partlycloudy on February 1, 2005, at 20:08:37
Or babble, booze and mj...
Posted by Susan47 on February 2, 2005, at 1:35:20
In reply to What I Think » AdaGrace, posted by just plain jane on February 1, 2005, at 23:34:09
She's right, you ARE doing yourself, and hard. Why don't you want to commit to seeing a therapist? The fear in you is so deep.
Posted by AdaGrace on February 2, 2005, at 17:11:35
In reply to AdaGrace, listen to jpj, posted by Susan47 on February 2, 2005, at 1:35:20
It's hard to listen to Janey, she is right, and she makes no bones about it, and all I can do is avoid her honesty and pretend it isn't true, otherwise I have to admit that I am screwing myself and I am doing it on purpose.
BUT!!!!!!!!!!
I have to say this......there is nothing better to get over a broken heart than another man. Even if the attention is not the desired kind, it's attention.......and that I am, an attention seeker.......
Posted by Susan47 on February 2, 2005, at 22:18:38
In reply to Re: AdaGrace, listen to jpj » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on February 2, 2005, at 17:11:35
...under the circumstances you're imposing upon yourself....
Posted by sunny10 on February 3, 2005, at 10:00:09
In reply to Re: AdaGrace, listen to jpj » Susan47, posted by AdaGrace on February 2, 2005, at 17:11:35
truth sometimes hurts- especially when it something about ourselves that we don't want to see. I know I hate to deal with it!
Maybe you could take this time to figure out WHY you are "a self-proclaimed attention seeker"? Maybe if you deprived yourself of acting on it, a deluge of feelings explaining why you want to act like that will let you see what's behind the desire.
Just my amateur suggestion. I'd like you to see yourself the way we see you. You'd like what you see.
((((((((((Be Careful, whatever you decide)))))))))
-sunny10
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