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Posted by justyourlaugh on June 10, 2005, at 1:10:09
been married for 15 years..
he is my room mate..we "get together once ever 6 months or so...(drunk)or longer" i am okay with that...i feel fat and ugly...(always have)never have been overweight until the meds...(5 years)..
how can i be what he wants(sex)..when i feel so unattractive?
Posted by AdaGrace on June 10, 2005, at 9:01:45
In reply to room mates.., posted by justyourlaugh on June 10, 2005, at 1:10:09
Been there, done that.
I find it quite theraputical to close my eyes and think of Sam Elliot....or Ed Harris. When it's some superstar fondling my flab, somehow it just seems to help me get past the uglyness of my fat. I mean, hey, if you are going to fantasize, or dream....go all the way baby.......
Just remember to refrain from saying things like "Oh Sam, you're the Love King" outloud. Sorta puts a damper on the mood of the actual physical male in the room.
Posted by Slinky on June 10, 2005, at 20:37:36
In reply to room mates.., posted by justyourlaugh on June 10, 2005, at 1:10:09
Jyl..
You may of tried this..have sex with sexy clothes on, not the cheep seedy black and red- unless your hubby likes that but you have to feel comfy too
If I ever have sex again I'm getting a bodice suspenders etc to hide my flab
I used to get turned on wearing sexy gear.Slinky
Posted by Tamar on June 11, 2005, at 19:03:44
In reply to room mates.., posted by justyourlaugh on June 10, 2005, at 1:10:09
> how can i be what he wants(sex)..when i feel so unattractive?
>Maybe he doesn't find you unattractive.
My male friends tell me that weight is neither here nor there... the important thing is being attracted to the women's features. Pretty eyes, pretty hair, pretty smile: those are the sorts of things that matter.
Men are often characterised as shallow and interested only in young, thin women, but I don't think that's generally true. Most men I know are interested in the whole woman: it's about a combination of looks and personality and attitudes and everything else.
I know what it's like to feel fat and ugly. I feel particularly fat and ugly at the moment... struggling to lose 50 pounds after the birth of my third child. But despite my disgust at the way I look in the mirror my husband still desires me. I don't know why, but I assume he sees beyond it.
I'm sure you are exactly what your husband wants, because you are you.
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