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Posted by alesta on July 1, 2005, at 16:33:24
hey y'all. nice to be back, although i probably won't be able to post again for a while..i just really needed to share my recent torment with ya and get it off my chest. i have missed you guys, but haven't had computer access. things have been very, very difficult recently, but they always are.
i'll try and explain what happened since my last post about a month ago...bear with me..:)
let's see..while i was still staying at my mom's house, my ex called me a couple times and said he missed me, asked me if i was coming back, basically seemed interested. at that time i had no romantic feelings for him *whatsoever*. about a week after he called me i called him back and asked to stay at his house for a while. i wasn't interested in him at all at the time, but really didn't want to go to a shelter. he agreed, and picked me up, but was very cold. (his prozac had just kicked in..may have played a part) anyway, i had sex with him while living there and now i have feelings for him again, but he's dating someone else now. and being a total jerk to me. (i can't believe i'm telling you guys this very personal stuff.) i was already in a very fragile state and now am just out of my mind with sadness. i can't believe i actually want this jerk now. he brought his date over the night before i was supposed to leave and played music really loud, and she spent the night. i thought it was SO insensitive of him to bring a date over to the house when i was going to leave the next morning. i mean, he could've gone out somewhere with her or *something*. i wouldn't have done that to him. but then there are a trillion things that i would not do to him that he has done to me. anyway. he met her like 2 days before and they are already really involved with each other. she calls him like 5 times a day..it is driving me crazy...i can't believe i am in love with this jerk again. he was so horrible to me..beyond words..
i am leaving his house today. but am sad. and feel terrible about myself. i'm sure i'll get over him soon..i hope. i just needed a shoulder to cry on. thanks for listening...hope you made it through this post..appreciate your reading.:)
take care guys,:)
amy
Posted by partlycloudy on July 1, 2005, at 16:33:25
In reply to hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 1, 2005, at 11:33:15
Miss you, Alesta. Yup, sounds like your ex needs to be kicked to the curb for good. I'm sorry you are hurting right now. I hope that this memory fades quickly for you.
Don't be a stranger...
pc
Posted by Deneb on July 1, 2005, at 16:33:25
In reply to hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 1, 2005, at 11:33:15
Hi Amy
I'm glad you posted, I was a little worried about you. What your ex did to you seems insensitive to me. He seems to be playing with your feelings and thinking only of himself. Only you really know whether or not you are in love with him again, but perhaps you should remind yourself of what he has done over the long term when you two where together and why you two broke it up. Don't beat yourself up for having feeling again though, just understand that maybe you are much more vulnerable than you thought.
Deneb
Posted by Angela2 on July 2, 2005, at 11:32:47
In reply to hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 1, 2005, at 11:33:15
Hi Alesta! Long time no see:) I'm sorry you are going through a rough time right now. If it were me, I would get as far away from this guy that I could. Being near him is only bringing you pain. Sex is not love. Remember that. Will you Promise me that you will not try to communicate with him this weekend? The best thing you can do for yourself, if you ever want to be happy is to do something for yourself. Buy one of your favorite books. Rent a movie. Talk to us here on PB. Time will heal all. You don't need this pain in your life. Get rid of him. OK?
-A2
Posted by anastasia56 on July 5, 2005, at 0:43:32
In reply to Re: hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by Angela2 on July 2, 2005, at 11:32:47
alesta baby, que pasa?
you are another one of our soldiers that jumped ship. Glad to see you posting again. I hope regularly.
Hope you're formulating your next life phase. i like creating these packages for myself, test them out and decide whether they work or not.
take care of you
ana
Posted by KaraS on July 7, 2005, at 15:38:12
In reply to hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 1, 2005, at 11:33:15
He is very insensitive and you deserve better! Just keep remembering all of the pain he has caused you this past year. That other woman is not getting any prize!
Maybe you only want him back because he is less interested in you and/or because you needed someone and he was there at the moment- physically at least.
Time to move on!
Take good care of yourself.
Kara
Posted by gardenergirl on July 9, 2005, at 23:24:14
In reply to hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 1, 2005, at 11:33:15
Posted by alesta on July 12, 2005, at 9:54:57
In reply to Re: hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:) » alesta, posted by partlycloudy on July 1, 2005, at 11:56:52
i replied to my original post, which sent this reply elsewhere. my deepest apologies, dear ones..
aim
Posted by alesta on July 12, 2005, at 22:51:18
In reply to hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 1, 2005, at 11:33:15
aw, man, thanks a lot you guys!:-) it is so good to read your responses! i feel bad to keep posting threads and not responding, but will start having more time/access to respond hopefully in the future.:)
things have changed a lot since my last post, for the better, thank god. i am now *again* seriously totally over my ex..it was just a momentary attraction, and i was very hurt for a couple days, but don't even think about him now. and we never really connected, which sucked..i guess i got over it so quickly cause i wasn't with him very long this time around..i don't even *like* the guy, let alone love him..thanks for all the wonderful feedback!:)
well, i am now *finally* in a shelter, and am eating well, getting along great with people (my ex kinda had me convinced i was unlikeable in a way, which i see is untrue..it's weird having ppl be kind to me!), and have a great paying (for me) job in the works! i still have some issues, but they are manageable now. i can't believe things are going okay for me! :) i know my posting style probably seems a bit different..it's just cause i'm extremely goal-oriented right now..
love and hugs to you guys and i hope to get 'conversational' here soon..i miss you guys!!!!
take care!:)
amy
Posted by alesta on July 12, 2005, at 22:51:19
In reply to Re: hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 12, 2005, at 8:58:49
Posted by Damos on July 12, 2005, at 22:51:19
In reply to Re: hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 12, 2005, at 8:58:49
Good to see you Amy. Really glad to hear things are moving in the right direction. Sending lots of good wishes your way.
Posted by KaraS on July 13, 2005, at 2:37:43
In reply to Re: hi guys.....long time no see, aye?:), posted by alesta on July 12, 2005, at 8:58:49
So glad to hear you're doing so well, aimster. Keep up the good work and keep us posted.
We always knew you were likable. No scratch that, make that lovable!
Kara
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