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Posted by Sonya on July 22, 2005, at 7:49:39
Advice wanted, please! My husband wants a sports car (specifically a Nissan 350Z). I say it's impractical and frivolous since it's not an all-season car and we live in New England. I admit, we can afford it. But we already have two other cars (one for each of us) which are in great shape. He's been talking about this for months now and I'm so tired of discussing it. I've told him that even though I don't think we should get it, that if he really wants it, he should buy it; but he said he won't unless I'm 100% behind him. He's worked his whole adult life, and our kids are grown and through with college. I know he deserves this if he wants it. Should I *act* excited and supportive, even if I'm not?
Posted by caraher on July 22, 2005, at 17:32:51
In reply to husband and sports cars, posted by Sonya on July 22, 2005, at 7:49:39
I don't think you should put on any kind of act. But you should definitely tell him what you told us about his deserving it.
Can you stir up genuine enthusiasm for him buying himself a "reward?" That would be honest and hopefully give him permission to reward himself he seems to want.
Posted by crazy teresa on July 23, 2005, at 14:46:42
In reply to husband and sports cars, posted by Sonya on July 22, 2005, at 7:49:39
"I know he deserves this if he wants it." Then why are you resisting? This could become a bone of contention between the 2 of you for yrs. to come, or you could join in the fun and go car shopping--make a big deal out of it for him. Have him drive you around in it just for fun. Get some big sunglasses, a low-cut blouse and a silk scarf-- be a movie star every time you ride in it!
It's a man thing. Beats the hell out of him wanting a 20 year old blonde...
Are you hesitant because you feel like you deserve something, too? Maybe you could have a really special day and both of you get what you've always wanted. 3 kt. diamond, couple of Chanel suits, inground pool, luxurious vacation, setting up a scholarship? It could be a once in a lifetime thing, kind of a congratulations to yourselves for getting the kids through college. You both deserve it, you would feel really special individually and maybe even appreciate one another for allowing each other's dream to come true.
crazy t
Posted by Sonya on July 25, 2005, at 6:36:05
In reply to Re: husband and sports cars » Sonya, posted by crazy teresa on July 23, 2005, at 14:46:42
You both made alot of good points. It's definitely not about me wanting something of my own. I don't want anything. Much of my problem is depression and not being able to get excited or interested in anything at all. But I shouldn't drag my husband down with me. This car will make him happy and I've told him I want him to get it.
Thanks for your comments.
Posted by crazy teresa on July 25, 2005, at 18:12:44
In reply to Re: husband and sports cars, posted by Sonya on July 25, 2005, at 6:36:05
Depression sucks! But I am happy to hear you will be supporting your husband. Hopefully you will be feeling better very soon and you will both enjoy the car. Honk if you drive by!
t
P.S. What color will it be?
Posted by Sonya on August 2, 2005, at 10:12:31
In reply to Re: husband and sports cars » Sonya, posted by crazy teresa on July 25, 2005, at 18:12:44
I'm sorry I took so long to see your post to me.
Even though I gave the sports car my endorsement, he ended up getting a Volvo S40 with all-wheel drive. We're both happy with it. All is well for now in the car department.
It's metallic blue.
Just dawned on me you may still be blocked. I didn't understand what was happening there. But you didn't deserve the PBC because of you remarks about the terrorists actions. I hope you come back soon.
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