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Posted by Bowtie Bob on September 19, 2005, at 5:28:18
I have adult ADD and my spouse is having a terrible time understanding why I can't remember things--although significantly improved when on meds--don't pay attention, etc. She has asked me if I am going to keep blaming it on the ADD. Anyone have any advice, resources, etc.?
Posted by crazy teresa on September 21, 2005, at 16:25:26
In reply to ADHD and Personal Relationships, posted by Bowtie Bob on September 19, 2005, at 5:28:18
I was reading something about dealing with ADHD recently. I'll see if I can find it for you.
carzy t
Posted by Bowtie Bob on September 21, 2005, at 19:55:38
In reply to Re: ADHD and Personal Relationships » Bowtie Bob, posted by crazy teresa on September 21, 2005, at 16:25:26
> I was reading something about dealing with ADHD recently. I'll see if I can find it for you.
>
> carzy t
Thank you Carzy T
Posted by 10derHeart on September 24, 2005, at 22:36:48
In reply to ADHD and Personal Relationships, posted by Bowtie Bob on September 19, 2005, at 5:28:18
Hi BB,
Sorry it took me so long to respond. How 'bout if I just blame my ADD for my disorganization and failure to finish things...like posting to people? ;-)
Anyway....I was diagnosed about 4 years ago. (I'm 46, BTW) There are TONS of resources. If you Google 'adult ADD' or 'ADD and relationships' on the Web, you'll come up with a huge amount, no doubt.
Here are two links for starters:
http://www.add.org/articles/index.html
There should be articles and book recommendations and such for family members specifically at both sites. There's been lots written about ADD and romance, parenting, dating, marriage...in fact, on the About.com site, there's a list called something like, "The Top Ten Things I Want You [or My Spouse] to Know About ADD," or something like that. If I find the list (I thought I saved it on my PC somewhere a while back...) I'll post it here. I remember it being awesome at helping explain that you don't *want* to do these things, and what a struggle it is for you to overcome what ADD can do to our brains...etc.Books, too. There are more all the time. Just do a search on Amazon, or check your local bookstore under the Psychology section. Good authors are Sari Solden, Terri Matlen, John Ratey and Dr. Ned Hallowell, Thom Hartman, and Katherine Nadeau - and that's only a few. You'll find books specifically about dealing with how to navigate a relationship where one partner has ADD and the other feels like they're going crazy....
Best of luck to you. This does *not* have to be an insurmountable problem, IMO.
Posted by fairywings on September 25, 2005, at 17:39:16
In reply to ADHD and Personal Relationships, posted by Bowtie Bob on September 19, 2005, at 5:28:18
Hi bowtie,
I have ADD and I have to write EVERYTHING down. You might think about writing lists and notes, I carry a notepad with me so I can jot notes to myself as I think of things I need to remember. I can't get from one room to the next without forgetting. You're right, meds help, but we still need crutches.
Your p-doc might have some pamphlets, and might know some name of some ADD coaches of you're into that kind of thing, or you might think about counseling for you and your wife to help you with your issues, and help her understand.
fw
Posted by Bowtie Bob on September 28, 2005, at 5:22:49
In reply to Re: ADHD and Personal Relationships » Bowtie Bob, posted by 10derHeart on September 24, 2005, at 22:36:48
> Hi BB,
>
> Sorry it took me so long to respond. How 'bout if I just blame my ADD for my disorganization and failure to finish things...like posting to people? ;-)
>
> Anyway....I was diagnosed about 4 years ago. (I'm 46, BTW) There are TONS of resources. If you Google 'adult ADD' or 'ADD and relationships' on the Web, you'll come up with a huge amount, no doubt.
>
> Here are two links for starters:
>
> http://add.about.com/
>
> http://www.add.org/articles/index.html
>
>
> There should be articles and book recommendations and such for family members specifically at both sites. There's been lots written about ADD and romance, parenting, dating, marriage...in fact, on the About.com site, there's a list called something like, "The Top Ten Things I Want You [or My Spouse] to Know About ADD," or something like that. If I find the list (I thought I saved it on my PC somewhere a while back...) I'll post it here. I remember it being awesome at helping explain that you don't *want* to do these things, and what a struggle it is for you to overcome what ADD can do to our brains...etc.
>
> Books, too. There are more all the time. Just do a search on Amazon, or check your local bookstore under the Psychology section. Good authors are Sari Solden, Terri Matlen, John Ratey and Dr. Ned Hallowell, Thom Hartman, and Katherine Nadeau - and that's only a few. You'll find books specifically about dealing with how to navigate a relationship where one partner has ADD and the other feels like they're going crazy....
>
> Best of luck to you. This does *not* have to be an insurmountable problem, IMO.
Good Morning 10 Der Heart...great name! Thank you for the links. Extremely helpful!Sincerely,
BTB
Posted by Medusa on October 15, 2005, at 5:47:22
In reply to ADHD and Personal Relationships, posted by Bowtie Bob on September 19, 2005, at 5:28:18
This section of an ADD board is for non-ADD partners:
http://www.addforums.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=281>non-ADD support
Be aware that by posting you (or she) basically grants an unrestricted license to the site owners to publish or otherwise commercially use anything you write.
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If you'd like to know my other thoughts about ADD/blame/relationships, e-mail me at medusa.gorgon@googlemail.com
I like to share my experiences, but I prefer not to grant unrestricted licenses to my writing.
Posted by Dr. Bob on October 17, 2005, at 5:10:26
In reply to Re: ADHD and Personal Relationships, posted by Medusa on October 15, 2005, at 5:47:22
> I like to share my experiences, but I prefer not to grant unrestricted licenses to my writing.
Psycho-Babble Writing is a loophole now...
Bob
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