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Posted by Deneb on September 24, 2005, at 18:52:10
My Mom is throwing a hissy fit right now cleaning up my room. I never told her to clean my room and she never told me to clean my room. She's just cleaning my room and yelling about how disorganized I am. Why can't she just leave me alone?! It's my mess and I have to live with it!
She never tells me to do anything, then she gets really upset because no one was able to read her mind and do things themselves. She *never* asks for help...even when she broke her wrist, she just wallowed in self misery, saying that no one cared about her enough to want to help her! When someone comes to help, she just says "No,no, I don't need your help!"
She just loves making me guilty and useless. Whenever I try to do things for myself, I always do them the wrong way. Whenever I don't do something exactly the way she does it, she ends up doing it instead! I can't do anything right, even things like the laundry, washing the dishes, cooking, buying clothes, vacuuming...it's soooo annoying! I just get fed up that I can never do anything right. It makes me not want to do anything. I never have any confidence in myself because she never lets me do anything! Then she complains of burnout and it's all my fault. She just yells and yells and yells and when I go help her, she tells me to go away because she can do it all! Aaaah! Does anyone understand me?
Deneb
Posted by crazy teresa on September 24, 2005, at 19:24:52
In reply to Argh! My Mom is so annoying!, posted by Deneb on September 24, 2005, at 18:52:10
It's so hard to live with your mom past a certain age, especially when they insist on acting like a martyr and you genuinely want to please her so much.
Hang in there! You'll be on your own before you know it. That's when moms look better to all of us! ;~} My oldest has been out of the house for a while but I catch myself still being very surprised that she calls me so often and asks my advice!
Posted by fairywings on September 26, 2005, at 3:35:18
In reply to Argh! My Mom is so annoying!, posted by Deneb on September 24, 2005, at 18:52:10
Oh Geeze, that was my mom to a tee Deneb! My advice, get the h*ll out of her way, if you see her coming, let her clean your F*ing room, if she's gonna do it anyway, that's her problem.
You're right, it's your room, your mess, and if she wants you to clean it, then she should ask you to clean it, and give you x amount of time, and not invade your space and privacy. I never do that to my daughters. I have never gone through their stuff, I ask and then give them time to do it.
But if she's going to be a martyr, and you can't reason with her, then let her be that way, let her do it all, and don't feel bad. leave the house when she's cleaning and bi*ching and moaning, let her rant at someone else, don't let her take it out on you, it's not your fault.
I fully understand, get out of there as soon as you can, run deneb, run!
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