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Posted by woolav on November 3, 2005, at 20:39:27
Sometimes i feel so frustrated. my husband knows i have a mild case of manic depressive disorder. I guess he really doesnt understand what it truely is.
ive had a few bouts of depression recently, just the normal stuff, crying for no reason etc. and he asks me what is wrong and when i say I DONT KNOW, he doesnt believe me. he thinks i am either keeping something from him or i am unhappy because of him. Neither is true of course, but i guess if you dont have this illness, you cant understand. I think that is more frustrating sometimes than the actual illness.....
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Posted by Tamar on November 4, 2005, at 17:57:44
In reply to Husband still doesnt understand!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by woolav on November 3, 2005, at 20:39:27
> Sometimes i feel so frustrated. my husband knows i have a mild case of manic depressive disorder. I guess he really doesnt understand what it truely is.
> ive had a few bouts of depression recently, just the normal stuff, crying for no reason etc. and he asks me what is wrong and when i say I DONT KNOW, he doesnt believe me. he thinks i am either keeping something from him or i am unhappy because of him. Neither is true of course, but i guess if you dont have this illness, you cant understand. I think that is more frustrating sometimes than the actual illness.....
> SThat sounds hard. How long have you been married? If you’ve been married a fairly short time, perhaps he’s still learning what makes you tick. Or he might be feeling insecure about his ability to cope with your illness. If you’ve been married for a long time, he might be worried about things changing…
Are you on meds? Maybe you need some, or maybe they need to be adjusted, particularly if you’ve been having bouts of depression. (I know nothing about medication, so feel free to ignore or challenge anything I say about it.)
It sounds as if your husband could use some information about your condition. Can you point him to some relevant websites or leaflets or anything like that? Would it help if you saw a therapist or p-doc together?
Sorry; I don’t really know what to say. But I do hope you manage to figure something out with him. A supportive partner can be a very positive influence, even if it takes some time for him to learn how best to support you. I hope things work out for you.
Tamar
Posted by ClearSkies on November 7, 2005, at 8:33:47
In reply to Husband still doesnt understand!!!!!!!!!!!!, posted by woolav on November 3, 2005, at 20:39:27
I invited my husband to come to a joint therapy session so he could gain a better understanding of my bipolarII condition. He has become much more sympathetic since then and it has made the household less tense when I am having a ride on the mood swing.
ClearSkies
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