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Posted by Angela2 on November 1, 2005, at 22:41:38
I'm just wondering, what does it mean for you babblers to be a good friend? How do you think, act, feel about them?
Posted by rainbowbrite on November 2, 2005, at 11:04:18
In reply to What does it mean to be a good friend?, posted by Angela2 on November 1, 2005, at 22:41:38
Hey Ang!
To me its differnet with each friend. Everyone brings thier own individual differneces into a freindship. and then each friend you have to deal with all their diffenret personalities.
A good friend listens when you need someone to listen, a good friend is just there for you as you are for them.
For me, I care about my friends but I also think its totally healthy to have times where they annoy you. sometimes you need space, youi know?
IMO a friend is someone you think of, like if I go somewhere and a friend comes to mind in reference to something else. Not sure how to explain that.
Another thing about friends is that we need to be accepting of their downfalls as much as they are of ours.
This may not be helping or answering your question but I would say there are a multitude of feelings we hold for our friends, but it probably all comes down to how we are affected emotionally, if a friends actions bad or good illicite strong feelings then I beilieve that is a strong relationship. Indifference is a sign of nothingness.
having an interest in your friends is also important.
Im sorry I think I may have rambled on here, my last thought is, that its important to be open with friends. if you wonder about something its best to just ask them. Im thinking about that other post of yours. hmm if I have a better answer pop up Ill come back.
:-)
Posted by Jen Star on November 3, 2005, at 1:33:27
In reply to What does it mean to be a good friend?, posted by Angela2 on November 1, 2005, at 22:41:38
hi angela,
I guess I have several definitions of "friend" -- there's my IDEAL "friend" who doesn't really exist (and I'm not this perfect as a friend, either!) Then there are my 'real' friends and my 'acquaintance' friends.Real friends, who are quite rare (I think) -
we are comfortable with each other. We can laugh, cry, snort out a snot, be bratty, and STILL like each other.
We are there for each other in fun times and miserable times. WE listen to all the crap, even if it's boring, even if we disagree.
We can hang out without needing to talk each minute.
We can talk about REAL feelings and emotions, not just surface chatter. We trust each other and don't divulge secrets. We don't talk trash about each other. We are kind to each other.
We're not afraid to be weak or imperfect.
I have only a few "real" friends, and a lot of acquaintance friends whom I quite like, but don't quite trust to the point of "best friend" and probably never will.
how about you?
JenStar
Posted by Angela2 on November 5, 2005, at 13:17:11
In reply to What does it mean to be a good friend?, posted by Angela2 on November 1, 2005, at 22:41:38
I'm sorry guys. Thanks for the input. I'm just too much of a mess to answer right now.
Posted by TexasChic on November 10, 2005, at 18:57:16
In reply to What does it mean to be a good friend?, posted by Angela2 on November 1, 2005, at 22:41:38
I drive them all away in the end.
-T
Posted by Bobby on November 10, 2005, at 21:44:00
In reply to Re: What does it mean to be a good friend?, posted by rainbowbrite on November 2, 2005, at 11:04:18
To me, it alway meant you're not gonna get any sex.
Posted by Bobby on November 10, 2005, at 22:21:47
In reply to Re: What does it mean to be a good friend? » rainbowbrite, posted by Bobby on November 10, 2005, at 21:44:00
Posted by TexasChic on November 13, 2005, at 18:10:13
In reply to Re: What does it mean to be a good friend? » rainbowbrite, posted by Bobby on November 10, 2005, at 21:44:00
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