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Posted by alesta on November 21, 2005, at 10:15:54
abuse?....my bf pressed his *very hot* lighter against my arm the other day on purpose..i jumped, it was so hot..it really shocked me that he did that..he said he didn't realize it was that hot, that he'd touched it with his hand first and that he thought it was cooler or something. i was pissed..he never could explain why he did that. i have a mark on my arm..not sure if it is from that or not..but there was no lasting pain. is this physical abuse? or just playing around? i am really surprised that he did that and cannot see why he would...other than to possibly cause me pain..don't know. amy:)
Posted by caraher on November 21, 2005, at 13:42:12
In reply to all right, this is probably obvious, but is this, posted by alesta on November 21, 2005, at 10:15:54
It sounds wrong. Why would he do this? Is he prone to random impulsive acts with no rhyme or reason? If he just wants to see what would happen he could use his own arm. He treated you like a plaything at best.
Posted by allisonross on November 21, 2005, at 15:40:54
In reply to all right, this is probably obvious, but is this, posted by alesta on November 21, 2005, at 10:15:54
Alesta: Sweetie...My Gosh!!!!!!
I felt sick when I read this; of course that is PHYSICAL abuse; no way to know if he knew if it was hot or not, but even if it were NOT hot, why would he do that?
Sounds sadistic ; without knowing any other details; this is what i see.
I've been counseling abused women for past 10 years (just got out of 31 years of verbal abuse). I tell everyone; RUN, do not walk, and get the book which should be required reading for everyone on the planet:
The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. ALL physical abuse begins with verbal abuse.
Hugs and love, and write if you would like: wacalice@aol.com (I am very concerned about you; worried about this; as I said; sounds....sadistic.
Love, Ally
Posted by alesta on November 22, 2005, at 8:11:03
In reply to Re: all right, this is probably obvious, but is th, posted by caraher on November 21, 2005, at 13:42:12
> It sounds wrong. Why would he do this? Is he prone to random impulsive acts with no rhyme or reason?
<he just wants to see what would happen he could use his own arm. He treated you like a plaything at best.
*exactly*....that was very good, what you said above....i had a kind of "aha" moment there...funny how i can't make sense of this relationship myself...you guys are enlightening me here..thanks caraher!:)
> It sounds wrong. Why would he do this? Is he prone to random impulsive acts with no rhyme or reason?
yes...he does *really weird* impulsive things occasionally...and he starting treating me like sh*t again last night and this morning..ugh...i've got to leave him when i leave here. thanks again for sharing your intelligent ideas with me! amy:)
Posted by alesta on November 22, 2005, at 8:23:03
In reply to Re: all right, this is probably obvious, but is th » alesta, posted by allisonross on November 21, 2005, at 15:40:54
> Alesta: Sweetie...My Gosh!!!!!!
>
> I felt sick when I read this; of course that is PHYSICAL abuse; no way to know if he knew if it was hot or not, but even if it were NOT hot, why would he do that?yes! exactly! good thinking.;)
> Sounds sadistic ; without knowing any other details; this is what i see.
there aren't any other details...it is as nonsensical (or, rather, violent) as it appears to be....:)
> I've been counseling abused women for past 10 years (just got out of 31 years of verbal abuse). I tell everyone; RUN, do not walk, and get the book which should be required reading for everyone on the planet:
>
> The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. ALL physical abuse begins with verbal abuse.
>
> Hugs and love, and write if you would like: wacalice@aol.com (I am very concerned about you; worried about this; as I said; sounds....sadistic.thank you so so much for your concern ally...i think i am very good at denial sometimes, lol...like, not again, no..this can't be...blah...anyway. i don't know why i put up with this stuff. i must be crazy. i will walk away asap. as soon as i am not living with him anymore. he doesn't do much for me at this point..but it might be sad to leave. i'm going to try not to think about him for a while today. he is making me lose myself right now, too. sorry..depressing...i sound like a mess, don't i. thanks again ally...your thoughts are always heartily welcomed and appreciated.:)
love,
amy
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