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Posted by alesta on December 29, 2005, at 14:01:18
well, this has been one hell of a couple of days..i wasn't going to post of my travails cause i thought it might make it worse and didn't want to depress ppl...but i think i need to..cause i feel like cr*;
i have recently been bullied by 3 different women..i've never been bullied before, didn't think i was the type of person to end up in that situation, and was particularly distraught a couple nights ago..i mean i was beyond upset..i wanted to *die*. and these women hurt with their words, not their fists...(although i was hit several times by one..a slap kind of hit on the arm several times, so not particularly painful or harmful physically..don't worry:))
these women all are so hateful...i've been nothing but *totally* nice to them. an administrator i talked to says he thinks they're jealous of me. i think he's probably right..but i have always been so unbelievably nice to them...it amazes me...
and today, on another note, i broke up with my bf after i saw him flirt w/ another girl. so it is OVER. i am definitely taking a LONG break from relationships.
i am all out of sorts. and not feeling particularly happy. god, is there any way to feel better? there are a lot of other things that already sucked, and now this.....
well, things can only go up, right?
hopefully i will feel happy soon...
can i plug into this love grid thing please...(reference to a post by damos)
sad and needing a boost,
alesta
Posted by alesta on December 29, 2005, at 14:57:31
In reply to broke up, bullied, and other nameless s##$5, posted by alesta on December 29, 2005, at 14:01:18
Posted by Damos on December 29, 2005, at 20:13:40
In reply to broke up, bullied, and other nameless s##$5, posted by alesta on December 29, 2005, at 14:01:18
> can i plug into this love grid thing please...(reference to a post by damos)
You most surely can. How 'bout until we can get us some of them gizmos made, you just put your fingertips on your screen and I'll put mine on mine and send you some that way. Ready? Here it comes.
Hope that helps a little
Here's hoping the New Year brings lots of love and happiness your way.Take care okay.
((((((((((Amy))))))))))
Posted by alesta on December 30, 2005, at 9:41:35
In reply to Re: broke up, bullied, and other nameless s##$5 » alesta, posted by Damos on December 29, 2005, at 20:13:40
thank you, damos!:-) can't wait til those gizmos hit the market!:) you have a fantastic new year too, luv.
take care, damos..:-)
Posted by alesta on December 30, 2005, at 9:53:16
In reply to broke up, bullied, and other nameless s##$5, posted by alesta on December 29, 2005, at 14:01:18
update on situation: i don't want ppl here thinking i'm some kind of wimp or somethin' concerning the bullying thing cause i'm
not...(i've always been the fearless defender of others who were bullied.) but i'm forced to *live* with a group of ppl, most of whom are very nice ppl. but there is a small group of women who have continually gossiped about me, are totally rude to my face, etc. if i didn't have to live w/ them this situation would never have arisen...but i sleep near them and telling admin hasn't done much to stop their berating me. but after that night i learned to deal and they don't bother me now. i have my inner peace back and am doing fine. i don't speak to them now or engage in their conversations. it's just that when this berating started that night, i wasn't expecting it and it caught me off guard, so i wasted my energy trying to defend myself against their verbal attacks which only made the situation escalate. the simple solution i realize now is not to engage in their conversations. just wanted to share how i was dealing with this. thanks for reading.:) have a great day.:)
lesta:)
Posted by alesta on December 30, 2005, at 15:18:40
In reply to broke up, bullied, and other nameless s##$5, posted by alesta on December 29, 2005, at 14:01:18
one more update:
i got back together w/my (ex) ex.
i feel torn..i've unwittingly developed feelings for someone else over time as well. passionate ones. ahh! my bf and i have broken up so many times that i've had too much opportunity for this sort of thing to happen. i don't even know if there's a possibility for anything. or if we'd be compatible. oh well. what can you do. i have a bf so i can do nothing. i could really use a little less drama in my life, to tell you the truth. ugh. gotta run for now. i am so stressed out. man, everybody's talking about chocolate around here lately..i need to go find me some..:)
alesta:)
Posted by Tamar on December 30, 2005, at 20:58:07
In reply to Re: update part II, posted by alesta on December 30, 2005, at 15:18:40
Sorry to hear about the bullying. Ignoring people is usually the best possible course of action, though sometimes not quite enough...
I'm sure your boyfriend makes you feel special but... I'm looking forward to the day when you wake up and know in your heart that you are special with or without a boyfriend, just because you are you.
You are a total sweetheart. Don't sell yourself short, in life or in relatinoships.
Tamar
Posted by gardenergirl on December 31, 2005, at 8:05:51
In reply to Re: update part II » alesta, posted by Tamar on December 30, 2005, at 20:58:07
Ugh, my sister was treated very poorly by some women from another department at her old job. My sis is the nicest and hardest working person, and other people notice. This particular group of women were really nasty to others and everyone knew it. Sometimes women can be the worst bullies.
I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I suspect you are very kind and have done nothing to deserve their shabby treatment of you.
Take care,
gg
Posted by alesta on January 4, 2006, at 11:48:47
In reply to Re: update part II » alesta, posted by Tamar on December 30, 2005, at 20:58:07
> Sorry to hear about the bullying. Ignoring people is usually the best possible course of action, though sometimes not quite enough...
>
> I'm sure your boyfriend makes you feel special but... I'm looking forward to the day when you wake up and know in your heart that you are special with or without a boyfriend, just because you are you.
>
> You are a total sweetheart. Don't sell yourself short, in life or in relatinoships.
>
> Tamarhi tamar :)
sorry it took me so long to get back to you.:) i'm getting a bit behind due to various life stressors. that was really sweet and thoughtful of you to say, t.:) i am always happy when i hear someone thinks i'm a nice person.:) i hope you are well, hon. thanks again, so much.:-) you are a sweetheart, too!take good care tamar!:)
alesta
Posted by alesta on January 4, 2006, at 12:00:01
In reply to Bullying » Tamar, posted by gardenergirl on December 31, 2005, at 8:05:51
thank you, gg. i appreciate that sweetie.:) things are cool in that department now...but that one night of bullying was a form of hell i hope to never revisit, and i am an adult. it makes me think about children that have to deal with bullying on a daily basis at school. about the ones that end up committing suicide, or engaging in school shootings....there needs to be much more awareness, prevention, education, and action concerning bullying in schools. i can't remember the subject ever being addressed once when i was in school. awareness would be a good start.
u take care, too, hon,:)
alesta
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