Psycho-Babble Relationships Thread 611222

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I canīt have a normal life, always alone and sad

Posted by tepiaca on February 19, 2006, at 21:11:09


Guys Im really but really tired of my life. Believe me , this is not life , this is the worst
of the nigthmares I could ever had and the
problem is that Im awake.

I am 25 now, all started when I was 16. I have
severe huge social phobia , depression and who
knows what else. I have been terrified in these
days because Im sure I could not make alone
in this world. My parents give me money yet but
they are getting older and someday they are not
gonna be with me anymore.
Believe meI canīt talk !!! how am I going to
work? . I have no motivation for living. Im
afraid of the future. I lost a year ago the
woman of my life and I did it because of this
disease. She get tired of me , of being so quite
of being so bad with her , I didnīt treat her
rigth , I was trying to solve this problem without paying attention to her. I wish I had health to marry her. Find another ? I canīt !!
Im not happy , I understand with this relation
that If I am not happy then how am I suppose to
make happy another person

If you look at me in the street you may think
oh he is normal , but you dont know the hell I
have inside. I open my mouth twice today, and
only say Yes or No. All day at bed watching TV
Dreaming with being normal , it hurts so much
this life. Is it worth to live like these all
my life? why to live??
can I be a father ?? what could I teach a son?
Does a woman deserve to be with me for the
rest of her life?
I dont have a reason to live. Im not exited
about life. Im still here only because of
my parents.
sorry to be so pesimistic, Im tired. Just
wanna share this with you

Tep



 

Re: I canīt have a normal life, always alone and sad

Posted by LegWarmers on February 21, 2006, at 23:47:03

In reply to I canīt have a normal life, always alone and sad, posted by tepiaca on February 19, 2006, at 21:11:09

have you thought of coginitive therapy? It sounds like it could help. a lot of what you are saying sounds like problems with confidence and talking to a therapist about that might alleviate some of your anxiety. You are still young, and the worst thing you can do to yourself is put pressure on yourself for not being what you want to be, just be who you are and try not to overanalyse it... easier said than done.
It takes a lot of work to change things within us that we dont like but with the right help, I dont see why you couldnt live that 'normal' life you want.
you sound so upset, Im so sorry and i hope you talk to someone.

 

Re: I canīt have a normal life, always alone and sad

Posted by gardenergirl on February 25, 2006, at 17:21:08

In reply to Re: I canīt have a normal life, always alone and sad, posted by LegWarmers on February 21, 2006, at 23:47:03

You know, in some ways, those are the questions we all ask ourselves. And in my experience, a lot of self-learning and introspection can happen at about your age. So I think that's those questions you have are quite normal.

Throwing SAD into the mix certainly intensifies the impact of those questions. And I'm a big believer in the power of human relationships and social support. It must be really tough to desire that and yet to be so anxious about it at the same time. I think it's hopeful, though, that it is still something you desire, even though it's scary. SAD is tough. From what I've seen, there are not a lot of consistently effective treatments. But I do think that therapy can help. And it's another form of support.

Hang in there. Keep trying. That's all we can do.

(((((tep))))

gg

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