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Posted by alesta on April 17, 2006, at 13:37:53
my relationship is getting so bad that i actually became suicidal last week..just thoughts, no actions. i read an article about abusers and i feel *really get* that he is an abuser now.
if only they (abusers) wouldn't start out so da*n nice i never would've been in this situation...listen up, guys,...women *do not* want to be abused!! if we didn't like nice guys we wouldn't end up with these cretans..(sp?) i have to start keeping my heart locked up so i can get the hell out...i prayed to god not to let him take my soul (yes, it's that bad...)
i just want to be alone. i don't need a man. i am honestly (swear to god) utterly contented by myself. i think i may have learned this over time. besides, passion, even in a 'normal' relationship, drives me nuts, lol. and marriage is way overrated. if i can just get out of the place i'm in right now in one piece (emotionally). i know i could be happy...at least, i think so.
thanks for listening, you out there:)
amy
Posted by ClearSkies on April 17, 2006, at 21:00:13
In reply to i cried all week long....what a horrible week., posted by alesta on April 17, 2006, at 13:37:53
It's a huge thing to recognise that you're in an abusive relationship. That no matter how much you try, it will never be enough.
When I left my husband (technically, he left me but I lent him the money to move out, ha ha how sick is that?) I resolved to be alone and was quite happy in my solitude. I'm still very comfortable with it, much more so since I stopped drinking. What a waste of my time! Even though I remarried eventually, it's a core part of me that I retain that desire for being with myself, by myself. I'm certainly entertaining enough...But I wanted to say that you've crossed an important line in acknowledging that your bf is an abuser.
ClearSkies
Posted by alesta on April 20, 2006, at 15:16:37
In reply to (((Alesta))), posted by ClearSkies on April 17, 2006, at 21:00:13
> It's a huge thing to recognise that you're in an abusive relationship. That no matter how much you try, it will never be enough.
yes yes!:)
> When I left my husband (technically, he left me but I lent him the money to move out, ha ha how sick is that?) I resolved to be alone and was quite happy in my solitude. I'm still very comfortable with it, much more so since I stopped drinking. What a waste of my time! Even though I remarried eventually, it's a core part of me that I retain that desire for being with myself, by myself. I'm certainly entertaining enough...
i know what you mean...i almost don't understand the 'concept' of loneliness, as i was never one of those ppl who *needed* other ppl's company, but would choose it b/c i *wanted* it...(do dat make sense? hehe :))
> But I wanted to say that you've crossed an important line in acknowledging that your bf is an abuser.thanks for acknowledging that...it is a big step...it is so funny how you can be going downhill emotionally and don't see it at all, until you are at rock bottom..well, me anyway
> ClearSkies
clearskies your support is most appreciated.:-) i haven't checked the admin board yet, but has doc granted you that self-esteem board yet?...i know you've been oh so patient.:) and a self-esteem board makes a hell of a lot more sense than a politics board on a mental health site!:) only kidding bob. but i seriously think a self-esteem board would be very appropriate and helpful, skies. great idea.:) (funny, i didn't think i was very talkative lately...thanks for getting me out a bit, lol :-))
take care, and i'm waiting on pins and needles to see if we can get some self-esteem up in heeyah!
love,:-)
amy
Posted by alesta on April 21, 2006, at 15:17:27
In reply to (((((clearskies)))))) » ClearSkies, posted by alesta on April 20, 2006, at 15:16:37
> i know what you mean...i almost don't understand the 'concept' of loneliness, as i was <never one of those ppl who *needed* other ppl's company, but would choose it b/c i *wanted* it...(do dat make sense? hehe :))actually, i'm not even making sense to myself, here (in the above statement)..my thoughts are very foggy lately. please disregard that statement, as it is inaccurate. (although true some of the time.) thanks!..aim
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