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Posted by lymom3 on May 19, 2006, at 11:20:30
I can not shut my mouth and let things go. I am driving everyone crazy with it. My kids are tired of it, my husband is tired of it. I am sick of me. No one is disputing that I might have valid points, just that they don't want to hear them a thousand times. I seem to think I can save people from everything by talking. Some things they don't even need to be saved from...I just think that they do because you know I always have to be right too.
Does anyone else have this problem? Any ideas how to stop?
Lisa
Posted by ClearSkies on May 19, 2006, at 13:45:14
In reply to How can I learn to shut up?, posted by lymom3 on May 19, 2006, at 11:20:30
My therapist had me write down some of the judgements I have (we all have them, even though we might not want to admit it). I wrote down a list of "what really bugs me" and then took an item on the list and broke it down further.
Writing down and acknowledging these judgements isn't about being right or wrong... it's just an exercise in recognizing what we do or what we're feeling. You're not told to stop thinking or feeling a certain way, but instead we're told to notice that thinking and feeling.
It pretty much stopped me cold. I can't even tell you why it worked, but a few weeks of noticing how I felt seemed to take the power out of my nasty moods and the sting out of my barbed words. It's a more pleasant world around me since I've done this exercise. Also, it's an ongoing thing for me. I don't consider myself done with noticing what I feel, but I'm always finding new things that I can examine.
It's an interesting process.
ClearSkies
Posted by fayeroe on May 19, 2006, at 20:28:56
In reply to How can I learn to shut up?, posted by lymom3 on May 19, 2006, at 11:20:30
you took the words right out of my mouth. writing it all down takes it's power away. it's really a very good suggestion. best of luck. xoxoxo faye
Posted by curtm on May 21, 2006, at 21:10:46
In reply to How can I learn to shut up?, posted by lymom3 on May 19, 2006, at 11:20:30
It never ceases to amaze me how some people just take things in stride. Things don't seem to get them worked up. How do they do it? Even in eminent danger, they seem disconcerned or overly optimistic. Heaven help them!
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