![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 9 of 9. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by corafree on July 1, 2006, at 11:33:14
Why did I stay?
It wasn't love! It wasn't fear! (Though I will admit that I've thought and even said these were my reasons, in the past.) It's another emotion. What is it?
Why did he physically cripple in a non-life threatening situation?
Is it learned behavior? If so, didn't he see the means didn't justify the end -or- it didn't work?
tkstoanyonejumpinwiththoughts, cf
Posted by Phillipa on July 1, 2006, at 15:24:51
In reply to Why Did I? Why Did He? *trigger violence*, posted by corafree on July 1, 2006, at 11:33:14
Maybe because you couldn't support yourself and he had the power. Only you can find the real reason.Love Phillipa
Posted by corafree on July 1, 2006, at 16:40:30
In reply to Re: Why Did I? Why Did He? *trigger violence* » corafree, posted by Phillipa on July 1, 2006, at 15:24:51
<Only you can find the real reason.>
I know, but it helps to know my friends have got my back! Even when I'm alone, I know you're here. And, there may be others that are in or out of domestic violence or violent situations that may be asking themselves these same questions.
I recently 'astonishingly' unearthed some real reasons for a bad choice I made in the past. It was such a revelation. So much weight was lifted off my shoulders!
After that happened, I knew it was possible to find relief from troubling issues.
If I can find some 'truths' here about the violence, I think it will be followed up by a new way of looking at people and life.
love, cf
Posted by Phillipa on July 1, 2006, at 18:01:00
In reply to Re: Why Did I? Why Did He? *trigger violence* » Phillipa, posted by corafree on July 1, 2006, at 16:40:30
Just an e-mail away. Love Phillipa
Posted by corafree on July 3, 2006, at 13:08:25
In reply to Re: Why Did I? Why Did He? *trigger violence* » corafree, posted by Phillipa on July 1, 2006, at 18:01:00
There are no secrets or revelations here.
I believed him because it's my nature to trust.
He told me I was his everything and I trusted to believe him.
That was when he began to convince me otherwise. He said I was nothing, and without him, would be less than nothing.
He wanted 'to own my spirit', and because I was confused, he did .. for a while.
But he couldn't/can't keep it. It's not my nature to let go the whole of myself.
cf
Posted by KayLen on July 6, 2006, at 5:27:30
In reply to Why Did I? Why Did He? *trigger violence*, posted by corafree on July 1, 2006, at 11:33:14
> Why did I stay?
>
> It wasn't love! It wasn't fear! (Though I will admit that I've thought and even said these were my reasons, in the past.) It's another emotion. What is it?
>
> Why did he physically cripple in a non-life threatening situation?
Is it learned behavior? If so, didn't he see the means didn't justify the end -or- it didn't work?
>
> tkstoanyonejumpinwiththoughts, cf$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
I have a friend that calls his past "loves"..and my marrige "Sick Dependencies"...he may be on the right trail. It is so hard to let go of the WHYS...Isn't it?..i had to ..it was eating me from the inside out....I wish for you a healthy happy life..your on your way..*smile*
PEACE
Kaylen
>
>
Posted by corafree on July 6, 2006, at 17:14:22
In reply to Re: Why Did I? Why Did He? *trigger violence* » corafree, posted by KayLen on July 6, 2006, at 5:27:30
Thank you very much Kaylen! cf
Posted by AuntieMel on July 11, 2006, at 10:13:40
In reply to WHY I DID. WHY HE DID. (no trigger), posted by corafree on July 3, 2006, at 13:08:25
It's human nature. A "known evil" is always preferable to an "unknown."
It takes a lot of strength to go for the unknown.
Posted by corafree on July 11, 2006, at 12:32:30
In reply to Re: human nature » corafree, posted by AuntieMel on July 11, 2006, at 10:13:40
<It's human nature. A "known evil" is always preferable to an "unknown."
It takes a lot of strength to go for the unknown.>
Well halelujah!!!
That is one 'profound' thing to say AuntieMel!
I feel proud ... of you, and I guess(?), me.
thanksnlove, cf
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Relationships | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.