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Posted by rjlockhart on September 20, 2006, at 8:51:49
I swear i have never been so danm mind blow in my entire danm life. I am so mad at my mom for thinking that i dont need anything to help me focus, she is so incredibly controlling, i want to get a restraining order on her. Or a COBRA(no not the snake, even though that would...) the court order to cut off her from me.
Well i shouldnt say that, she does love me, she just is always yelling, always mad about something, she is hardly ever postive when she talks, she thinks everything i do is unstable, she is mentally unstable. She needs a psychostherpist with Lithium and Xanax (at a high dose) Which i already take Xanax to just stop panic attacks she starts with me.
Well i shount talk bad about her, i love her, she took care of me when i was little and went through hell herself. But I have got to find a way out, of this hole.
I got to study right now, i cant think of this delima or i will just blow up.
Please some responses.
Matt
Posted by Phillipa on September 20, 2006, at 8:51:50
In reply to I am in HELL, trying my best to study with out sti, posted by rjlockhart on September 19, 2006, at 20:21:44
Matt you know what mine is. Find that Aunt and live with her. Love Phillipa
Posted by yxibow on September 20, 2006, at 8:51:50
In reply to I am in HELL, trying my best to study with out sti, posted by rjlockhart on September 19, 2006, at 20:21:44
> I swear i have never been so danm mind blow in my entire danm life. I am so mad at my mom for thinking that i dont need anything to help me focus, she is so incredibly controlling, i want to get a restraining order on her. Or a COBRA(no not the snake, even though that would...) the court order to cut off her from me.
This is a serious situation, family courts are not a fun situation. If you divorce yourself of your parents, which you, state laws willing, are allowed to at your age, a whole set of things come into play. But yes, you have some rights under COBRA and HIPAA about transference of insurance. Unfortunately I don't know what they are exactly, nor should I tell you to divorce your mother, they are available for perusal though at:COBRA
http://www.dol.gov/dol/topic/health-plans/cobra.htm
HIPAA
http://www.hhs.gov/ocr/hipaa/
If you are serious, you should try to get a paralegal in your area to explain your rights.> Well i shouldnt say that, she does love me, she just is always yelling, always mad about something, she is hardly ever postive when she talks, she thinks everything i do is unstable, she is mentally unstable. She needs a psychostherpist with Lithium and Xanax (at a high dose) Which i already take Xanax to just stop panic attacks she starts with me.
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> Well i shount talk bad about her, i love her, she took care of me when i was little and went through hell herself. But I have got to find a way out, of this hole.Love knows no bounds, you can love someone without being able to reconcile with them and its perfectly natural to have this dichotomy of loving your mother but not the family situation.
> I got to study right now, i cant think of this delima or i will just blow up.
I think that's a good idea, to get things off your mind for a moment.
> Please some responses.
>
> Matt
Posted by gardenergirl on September 20, 2006, at 8:51:50
In reply to Re: I am in HELL, trying my best to study with out » rjlockhart, posted by yxibow on September 19, 2006, at 23:16:55
"Divorcing parents" is for minor children. Once you are of age, which it seems you are, Matt, you are already "divorced". Your parents are no longer responsible for your care or actions, legally. You hold the responsiblity for yourself now.
As long as you remain a student, you are eligible to remain on your parents' insurance up to age 24 in most states. As others have stated, if your parents choose not to keep you on their insurance, you likely would have options for continuing this coverage under current COBRA laws, though you will have to pay for it, and it the price will go up.
Alternatives would be purchasing student health insurance if your school has that available, or finding a job which offers health benefits (usually only to full time employees). Or you might be able to switch to your father's insurance plan if your mother and step-father were to decide not to continue to carry you on theirs for whatever reason.
Please talk about this with your therapist. He or she should be able to help you figure out what the best course of action is. He or she can also help you figure out what is and what is not within your locus of control, and help you focus your energy on what you can control. Your therapist can also help you with finding advisors regarding your insurance status, so that when you choose to, you can start being responsible for your own healthcare decisions and follow-through.
Take care,
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on September 20, 2006, at 8:51:50
In reply to Re: I am in HELL, trying my best to study with out » yxibow, posted by gardenergirl on September 20, 2006, at 8:48:57
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