Psycho-Babble Relationships Thread 700006

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handling my illness and marriage.

Posted by rainee62 on November 3, 2006, at 9:45:05

I've been with my husband for 30 years. We had some rocky times. Things seemed to get better for awhile . But I'm so lethargic and don't keep up the house or cook or shop. as of late he has started socializing more and that is good for him.
I feel afraid I'm being abandoned. He says I'm not but he is tired of working going to the store cooking dinner and washing his own clothes. While I sit at home. I tried to work but can't seem to hold a job down because I cycle too much.He assures me he loves me but is tired and sometimes wants to get away for a week.
we have 3 kids 21,19 and 15. Today I"m trying to clean and take care of things but as I do I'm so anxious and scared. I have no family but him and the kids. can anyone relate? give some words to cope? Thanks so much .

Re: handling my illness and marriage.

Posted by Jost on November 4, 2006, at 22:49:03

In reply to handling my illness and marriage., posted by rainee62 on November 3, 2006, at 9:45:05

Rainee62,

Would you mind tell me a little more about yourself? When you say things seemed to get better, could you be more specific? had there been times when the relationship was more strained?

I wondered if something other than your husband's going out has changed recently?

Being the mother of three children and coping with difficult moods is a great accomplishment. It seems ordinary-- but it isn't.

How long is your husband gone? Socializing and being gone for a week at a time seem to me very different things.

Have you used any medications, or tried therapy?

I'm very sorry things seem dismal or discouraging. I've had times when I've been afraid of being abandoned by my Significant Other (we've been together for a long time, through difficult periods), and I see in retrospect that much of it was my fears, not his intention.

If you're being left alone for periods of time, though, that seems like a lot, unless both of you are secure and comfortable in it.

Jost

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