Psycho-Babble Relationships Thread 718971

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I like being alone, but I don't want to be alone

Posted by Deneb on January 3, 2007, at 16:34:28

OK, yes it doesn't make sense. LOL

I like being alone most of the time, but sometimes it's nice to have someone to do things with.

I think I want a relationship sometimes, but then I think about how awkward things get with me and other people and I don't want it anymore.

I just want someone to accept who I am and who doesn't need anything from me. I don't think such a relationship exists.

I wouldn't want the relationship to be sexual, at least not until I want to have a kid. I just want someone to maybe travel with and do fun things with. I want to find a person who will listen to me. He doesn't even need to reply. He can just be silent and understanding. He also needs to tolerate my love for Bob. LOL Basically I want someone (I guess that someone can be a guy or a girl, but I prefer guy because one day I might want to have a kid) who will be there for me when I need him, but who will also leave me alone most of the time. How do I find such a person?

Deneb*

 

Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alo

Posted by AuntieMel on January 3, 2007, at 17:51:20

In reply to I like being alone, but I don't want to be alone, posted by Deneb on January 3, 2007, at 16:34:28

The best way to find such a person is to listen.

The more you listen, the smarter they think you are. And the more likely they are there for you when it counts.

 

Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alo » Deneb

Posted by LJRen on January 3, 2007, at 22:34:50

In reply to I like being alone, but I don't want to be alone, posted by Deneb on January 3, 2007, at 16:34:28

> OK, yes it doesn't make sense. LOL
>
> I like being alone most of the time, but sometimes it's nice to have someone to do things with.
>
> I think I want a relationship sometimes, but then I think about how awkward things get with me and other people and I don't want it anymore.
>
> I just want someone to accept who I am and who doesn't need anything from me. I don't think such a relationship exists.
>
> I wouldn't want the relationship to be sexual, at least not until I want to have a kid. I just want someone to maybe travel with and do fun things with. I want to find a person who will listen to me. He doesn't even need to reply. He can just be silent and understanding. He also needs to tolerate my love for Bob. LOL Basically I want someone (I guess that someone can be a guy or a girl, but I prefer guy because one day I might want to have a kid) who will be there for me when I need him, but who will also leave me alone most of the time. How do I find such a person?
>
> Deneb*

try befriending a nice gay guy! lol

Ren

 

Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alo » LJRen

Posted by Deneb on January 3, 2007, at 23:08:23

In reply to Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alo » Deneb, posted by LJRen on January 3, 2007, at 22:34:50

> try befriending a nice gay guy! lol
>
> Ren

LOL I just might do that. :-)

Deneb*

 

Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alo » AuntieMel

Posted by Deneb on January 3, 2007, at 23:09:10

In reply to Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alo, posted by AuntieMel on January 3, 2007, at 17:51:20

Listening sounds like good advice. I need to do that more.

Deneb*

 

Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alone » Deneb

Posted by MidnightBlue on January 3, 2007, at 23:10:30

In reply to I like being alone, but I don't want to be alone, posted by Deneb on January 3, 2007, at 16:34:28

Deneb,

Just reading this it sounds like you want a FRIEND not a boyfriend or relationship. And that is okay! It really is. Just work on figuring out who you are and what you want in life.

MB

 

Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alone » MidnightBlue

Posted by Deneb on January 3, 2007, at 23:26:10

In reply to Re: I like being alone, but I don't want to be alone » Deneb, posted by MidnightBlue on January 3, 2007, at 23:10:30

> Deneb,
>
> Just reading this it sounds like you want a FRIEND not a boyfriend or relationship. And that is okay! It really is. Just work on figuring out who you are and what you want in life.
>
> MB

I think you're right! I'm looking for a friend, a close friend. In that case, Babble is the best place to look for this friend because people know me here already.

My friend can be male or female.

Deneb*


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